Healthy friendships and relationships need trust. Think of trust as the glue that holds your friendships together. When you do or say things that hurt your loved ones, trust is weakened. Build trust with consistency.
You can’t have a friendship, or much less a relationship if you don’t talk. That’s why healthy communication is the fuel that keeps relationships burning brightly. Say what you mean and mean what you say.
Respect is an admiration towards someone based on their traits or accomplishments. It can also be the act of given someone importance. Healthy friendships are held up by a mutual respect for one another.
Everyone needs to feel supported. Friendships and relationships are a great place to find grounded and realistic support. Think of support as emotionally holding someone up when they’re too tired to stand.
Accountability is the key to longevity. Everyone eventually gets tired and everyone at one point wants to give up. Accountability is that support system in a very intentional and specific way to keep you from quitting.
Gossip. It’s basically make-believe paraded as truth. It tears life-long friendships apart, creates rumors and ruins reputations. Even if there’s a hint of truth in gossip, it isn’t told in a kind, encouraging way.
Like a puppet master controls a marionette, manipulators control others’ thoughts and actions. Manipulation is opposite of relationship because it doesn’t create equality, support or healthy communication.
Jealousy is poison. It slowly kill those afflicted silently – often, it goes unnoticed. It creates invisible barriers between friends, families and couples. It creates unhealthy competition and deep, bitter resentment.
Abuse is not normal. It can be physical, emotional or verbal. Don’t forget that it isn’t your fault and you shouldn’t tolerate it. Abuse puts you in danger, hurts your self-esteem and robs you of your freedom.
Isolation. It’s a classic red flag pattern of unhealthy friendships and relationships where an individual is pulled away from their primary support system, such as their friends, family or both.
It’s Your Turn!
Take The True Friends Quiz
Sey ‘Yes’ to your Goals and ‘No,’ distractions
Protect your direction in life today by writing down your very own refusal strategies template. Make sure to share them with a parent and friend!
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Then press (command + P) on mac to print or (Control + P) on Windows to print.
Steps to Success
Now that you know the differences between healthy and unhealthy relationships, it’s your responsibility to get the help and support you need to either address the unhealthy aspects of your friendship or relationship or to let it go. It’s important to ask for help from your parents, mentors and friends. You can do this!
- Write down up to five of your friends’ names.
- Give them a point for true answers and skip for false.
- Count of the scores.
Roots are 10-8 points; Branches are 7-5; Leaves are 4-0.